Achieving the big O is the ultimate goal for any sexual encounter, one that most men and woman are able to achieve on a semi-regular basis. A lucky few are even able to capture the ever elusive multiple orgasm. Sadly for the men of the world, this feat is much easier achieved by women, than by men. Learn why one’s biology plays a role in being able to climax two or more times and how men can up their chances by maintaining a healthy penis.
The Biology of an Orgasm
When a man (or a woman) orgasms, there is a release of hormones, tension and bodily fluids. Famous sex researcher Alfred Kinsey once likened an orgasm to a sneeze – of the genitals, that is! After orgasm has been achieved, there is a period of time known as the refractory period, which is essentially a recovery period for the body. A man’s refractory period can last for as little as 20 minutes – for men who are young and healthy – and up to an hour or more for older men. Men who are much older, suffer from erectile dysfunction, or have other health issues may have an indefinite refractory period – meaning they are only able to orgasm once a day – no matter how hard they try for a second. During the male refractory period, his body is virtually unresponsive, no amount of rubbing, pulling, or tugging will get him hard again – let alone lead to orgasm. A woman, on the other hand, has virtually no refractory period. She can be ready to go as soon as she catches her breath, or even sooner! It seems basic biological differences that exist between men and women are responsible for the difference in their recovery time – neurotransmitters, hormones and differences in nerve endings all influence one’s refractory period.
So are men out of luck?
Well, in terms of having back-to-back, continuous full-blown orgasms, men may be out of luck. However, there are some techniques that a man can try which will help him get as close to multiple orgasm as possible. By practicing tantric sex techniques, a man can slowly learn how to control his orgasm so that he can experience the beginning orgasmic contractions without going over the edge into a full-blown release. Those who practice tantric sex learn, with practice, to separate orgasm from ejaculation, so that they can extend their sexual experience for a longer period of time. The technique is not easy to master – and will likely lead to several near misses – but with continued work, a man and his partner can becomes experts at this sizzling technique.
How is it done?
One of the basic techniques involves squeezing the pubococcygeal muscles (PC), the muscles can be located by stopping the flow of urine. To strengthen the muscles in preparation for tantric sex, a man should contract the muscles 20 to 25 times, 3 times a day – holding each contraction for about 3 seconds and working up to 10 seconds as the muscles get stronger. These same muscles are later employed during tantric sex, to achieved prolonged orgasms. Essentially, a man has sex as usual but as he feels himself nearing climax, he contracts the PC muscles, takes deep breaths and stops the action until the feeling subsides. He can continue doing this as he grows nearer to orgasm, and if he contracts the PC muscles at the correct time, he can experience the sensations of an orgasm without ejaculation. A man can carry on in this manner as long as he likes until he decides to let go, and fully climax.
Keeping the penis healthy
Naturally, for a man to engage in hours of sex he is going to need a healthy manhood. Not only should he be physically fit — as a strong heart and healthy circulation can translate into a strong erection — he needs the penis itself to be healthy. Daily use of a penis vitamin formula (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil) can help keep the penis sex-ready at all time. A penis vitamin lotion can help improve circulation, revitalize the health of the penis, and soothe itchy, irritated skin – which may not be a problem now, but can crop up from too much tantric sex. What a problem to have!