Is this the golden age of masturbation? There are plenty of arguments in support of this theory. For example, while masturbation is still not really something one discusses at a formal dinner party, there is still a greater openness about the subject than in years past. More people, especially men, not only admit to indulging in masturbation but often talk about it without a sense of shame. There are plenty of lubricants around to choose from, as well as an array of sex toys which can add to the experience. Studies indicate that it can even be beneficial to one’s penis health by keeping the member exercised. And of course, thanks to the internet, there is a wide range of visual aids readily accessible by most men.
Yet those visual aids – specifically, pornographic videos, photographs, gifs, etc. – could be considered a double-edged sword. Sure, men tend to be visual creatures and so may respond especially well to visual aids when masturbating. But as with anything else, using visual aids exclusively might not be the best idea in the long term.
For one thing, relying just on visual aids for masturbation may make it more difficult to masturbate when a guy is horny but, say, the internet is down or he’s staying with a friend and can’t access the porn. In addition, men in adult videos tend to be rather excessively endowed; watching a steady diet of men with extra-large organs give pleasure to women who ooh and aah over their size may make a normally-endowed man feel inferior, even if only on a subconscious level.
Fondling without visuals
Skipping the visual aids, at least on occasion, can have benefits for a guy. For example, it can improve his memory. If he challenges himself to utilize memories of actual sexual experiences from his own past, this can help him to keep his memory sharp. Using real life experiences also keeps him firmly an actual player in his masturbation activity: most of the time when viewing pornography, a man is a voyeuristically viewing the action rather than actively being a part of it.
A man can also create his own erotic fantasies to masturbate to, which exercises both his penis and his mind. Not only can he create exactly the scenario that he wants, but he can have total control over it, so that he and any of the players in the fantasy will act and react in the way that is most pleasing to him.
And sometimes a man may want to masturbate without using any fantasies or past experiences but instead simply focus on being in the “here and now” of masturbating. Concentrating on what he is doing and how it feels – the good sensations each stroke provides, how different strokes and grips provide different sensations, what it feels like to move his free hand over other parts of his body, etc. – he can have a different experience while at the same time learning or re-learning valuable information about himself which he can use when engaging in partner sex.
A man doesn’t have to give up visual aids when masturbating, of course. But at least “switching it up” every now and then is a good idea.
Whether their masturbation includes visual aids or not, men should be regularly applying a first rate penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin) to better maintain that penis health. Because men sometimes go overboard in the masturbation department and develop a raw, sore penis, a crème with both a high end emollient (such as shea butter) and a preferred hydrating agent (think vitamin E) is necessary. In addition, too much rough handling or using a death grip can seriously de-sensitize the penis, making masturbation (and partner sex) less pleasurable. A crème with a neuroprotective ingredient such as L-carnitine can be an aid in maintaining proper penis sensation.