A vital, flourishing sex life is an important component of penis care, as frequent use gives the member the exercise it needs to stay strong and nourished. While some couples may prefer silent sex, others find nothing more tantalizing than a healthy helping of dirty talk. What this looks (or sounds) like depends on the couple. In some situations, both partners may have experience with verbal supplementation; other times, only one partner is well-versed, so to speak, on the topic. It may even be brand new to both partners. Some couples may like to engage in dirty back-and-forth, while others may prefer to establish a speaker and a listener. There’s no one right way with dirty talk; using it for better sex requires both partners to communicate their desires and needs.
The following advice will help men introduce the topic of dirty talk with their partners and, if the partner agrees to give it a go, learn some different ways to proceed.
Boundaries
Whenever considering the addition of a new element in a couple’s sex life, it’s a good idea to talk about it first. This helps a man know if his partner is open to what he’s throwing out there and, if so, where the partner’s boundaries lie.
A man can begin the conversation frankly: “Are you interested in dirty talk?” Then, the conversation can get more detailed. Are there certain words – for body parts or the sex act, for example – the partner is particularly fond of or uncomfortable with? Some partners like light dirty talk, sticking mainly to observation and description, while others like more extreme forms such as name-calling. Some basic ground rules should be laid out beforehand.
Observation/Description
Whatever a man does, it’s important not to jump in too deep too fast. He may choose, then, to stick with observation and description to start off with. He can describe what he loves in the moment and how he feels. “You look gorgeous,” “I love how I feel inside you,” “I fill you so well” – these are hot and spicy descriptions a partner might love to hear.
Matching Talk Intensity with Arousal
To keep dirty talk authentic, it’s good not to force it. As arousal increases during sexy time, one’s words can amp up in turn – naturally, honestly. If comfort has been established with such things, a man may start using more racy terms for body parts and for the act itself as he and his partner get hotter.
Invite the Partner in, Gently
Whether or not a man’s partner is interested in playing an active role in dirty dialogue, he or she may enjoy some level of participation. A good way to prompt this is to ask a question: “Do you like when I __ your __?” “Does that feel good?” These are questions that gently invite the partner to participate without being too pushy.
Giving/Receiving Orders
While it’s certainly not for everyone, some couples like a little (or a lot of) domination/submission in the mix. One element of this is giving or receiving orders. The dominant partner tells the other what to do, being very explicit about what he or she wants. “Now put your mouth on my __,” “I want you to ride me” – these are just a couple examples. Partners may exchange roles throughout playtime, or may prefer to remain in one role.
Name-Calling
Not everyone is comfortable with this, but some people love being called names during sex, and these names range from more mild but sexy terms like “bad girl/boy” or “dirty girl/boy” to more aggressive, derogatory terms. While some people find it degrading, others – particularly those who like to take a submissive role and serve as a sort of pleasure vehicle for their partners – may get a thrill from this unmatched by other forms of dirty talk. It should be noted that both partners need to be comfortable with this; some people might not be comfortable calling their partners names, and that’s okay.
While dirty talk can fan the sexual flames, a dirty penis will not. Along with regular washing, the daily application of a penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can help prevent skin tears and rough patches that trap bacteria. Look for a product with natural moisturizers like Shea butter and vitamin E; vitamin A is also a great feature, since it works to eliminate odor-causing bacteria. A smooth, supple member is a major turn-on, along with all the fun words couples can use to describe it.
