A healthy sex life is important for mental, physical and penile health. For some men, a healthy sex life entails exploring their more eccentric interests. Those who are curious about kinky sex – whether incorporating bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism, fetishes or some combination of these – may want to consider attending a munch.
What is a munch?
A munch is a social event organized by participants of the kink community. These events are generally held in a public place, such as a restaurant or café. Often, attendees enjoy lunch, dinner and/or drinks while talking about various aspects of BDSM or fetish life, or just socializing. Depending on the size of the gathering, the attendees can be expected to represent a range of experience levels and interests. It’s a place for learning, sharing and building a sense of community with other people who have non-traditional sexual leanings.
What is a munch not?
Generally, munches are not held as “pick up” gatherings – one shouldn’t attend expecting to find a new sexual partner. Although, one might earn an invitation to a sex party, depending on the crowd, or meet someone with whom to explore later.
Is it safe?
Attending a munch is certainly safer than taking up one of those Craigslist casual encounters. It’s held in public, and people who go to them tend to be interested in a close-knit and respectful community. Still, there is always some risk involved when meeting up with strangers. Some may wish to bring a friend or partner.
If one wishes to go alone but has concerns, he can consider contacting the person organizing the event. This person may hold a seat next to him/her and make a special effort to help a guy feel comfortable, introducing him to others and checking in on how he’s feeling throughout the duration of the gathering.
Are some people “too vanilla” for a munch?
No! A munch is not about competition. It’s about welcoming, learning, sharing and making friends. One shouldn’t fear that his interests aren’t “kinky enough” or that he has too little experience to attend a munch. These events are not just for people who have extreme interests or who have acted upon them, but for those who are genuinely curious about kinky sex and may want to learn more about it as well.
What is proper munch etiquette?
- Respect others. Don’t ask very intimate questions at first.
- Don’t brag. In keeping with the atmosphere of welcoming, one shouldn’t be boastful about how kinky his thoughts or experiences have been – he can share, but not with the intention of making others feel “too vanilla.”
- If one wants to wear something out of the ordinary that speaks to his kink – a collar, for example – he should contact the organizer to see if such is deemed appropriate. Most of the time, people dress for a munch how they normally do.
- Know if there are any specifications of the munch you plan to attend. Some have age group restrictions; some are dominants or submissives only, etc. Respect those specs.
Where does one find out when munches are happening?
One can google the term “munch” along with his location, or create a FetLife account and search there. FetLife is a social media network for kinksters.
Men with a kinky side might find that, along with exploring that side more, they will benefit their sex lives by taking extra precautions against some of the injuries and issues certain kinks can cause to the penis. Penis torture, very rough handling, the use of cock rings and so on can all lead to significant chafing of the manhood, and men would do well to keep their skin in the best condition possible before and after such sessions. Using a quality penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) can do wonders for penile skin health, limit chafing and leave the skin more resilient to the frictions both of daily life and of kinky time. Kinkster or no, any man can benefit from the use of a good skin care product.
