Men sometimes look at the vibrator as competition, but there’s no need. The penis and the vibrator can join forces to make sex even more enjoyable for both partners. One study found that women who use vibrators report higher marks on sexual function measures, such as orgasm, lubrication and desire. Incorporating sex toys into partner sex can bring the activity to new levels. Since sexual health involves an active and enjoyable sex life, it’s always a good idea to think of ways to freshen up the routine.
The following are tips for using a vibrator in various sex positions. Of course, couples should get creative and experiment for themselves, but these are good places to start.
Missionary (him on top)
A vibrator can be placed on a female partner’s clit while the man is on top. This can be a bit tricky, as a large, dildo-sized vibrator may slip off or be too thick to accommodate how close the partners want their bodies to be.
A couple can get around these issues by using a particular type of vibrator. There are vibrating cock rings that men can wear while they have sex with a partner, and the ring will provide stimulation to her vulva and clitoris as well as the man’s penis. Another option is a thin vibrator that can nestle easily between the two partners’ bodies.
Missionary (her on top)
This position makes it a little easier to use a normal vibrator, as the woman’s clit is more exposed. She can sit up, rest a vibrator on his pubic bone and ride, controlling just how much and when she gets her vibrations.
In this position, it’s easy for either partner to press the vibrator to a woman’s clitoris. She can experiment with propping herself up on her hands or dropping down to her elbows; she can also vary how widely she spreads her legs.
Using a vibrator in this position can be a real treat for the man, since the positioning of the toy will allow for vibrations to be delivered to his testicles.
This position creates maximum clitoral exposure. Beginning in man-on-top missionary, the man sits on his calves and pulls the woman’s hips up close to him so she’s in a bridge position with one leg on each side of her partner. Her clitoris is right out there in the open for either partner to access with the toy of their choice.
Toys are a great way to spice up a couple’s sex life, and the market has expanded greatly in recent years. People should explore this new world of sex toys, learning about different designs. Some toys can be worn on the fingertips; some can be controlled by remote; some go inside a woman’s body, while some are specifically designed for the clitoris. Each of these features could appeal to partners in different ways, so doing one’s homework and investing wisely is a good idea.
Some couples will find that the introduction of good vibrations into their sex life increases their desire and, in turn, the frequency with which they get it on. And while that’s certainly not a bad thing, partners should be mindful to care for themselves, working to prevent chafing and soreness that can result from frequent sexual activity. Using plenty of lubricant can help prevent penile and vaginal chafing. Men should also consider using a penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) daily to protect their delicate penile skin. With Shea butter and vitamin E, this crème keeps the skin hydrated and resilient against friction. Taking care of the vagina and penis will ensure that a couple is ready to go for their next romp.