Even those people who consistently enjoy good sex wouldn’t mind having even better sex – and that’s where a little attention to outercourse may come in handy. Although incorporating more outercourse into one’s sex life may take a little practice, the results can be well worth it. And since a happy sex life generally improves a man’s penis health, it can be a “win” all around.
What is outercourse?
The term outercourse refers to sexual activity which does not involve penetration of either the vagina or the anus. It is most often associated with “dry humping,” that is, an activity in which two people rub their genitals together while remaining clothed (a favorite activity of many young people who are just beginning to explore partner-based sex). However, the actual definition of outercourse encompasses much more than this.
Because outercourse is any form of partner-based sex in which the penis does not enter the vagina or anus, it includes oral sex, mutual masturbation, usage of sex toys, genital-to-genital rubbing, fingering, erotic massage, “dirty talk,” manual stimulation of the breasts and even good old-fashioned kissing.
“Real” sex
Most couples already engage in some form of outercourse such as kissing, snuggling and foreplay. However, they may find they can achieve better sex if they make outercourse a more important or prominent part of their sexual activities.
For most people, “having sex” means inserting the penis into the vagina – and it’s easy to see why. But people often experience better sex if they take a broader view of the activity. When the goal is to achieve intimate bonding through physical contact, the couple can find satisfaction in extending the amount of outercourse before or after penetration – or even by not making penetration the ultimate goal of the activity.
Both can benefit.
When discussing outercourse, men often assume that this is something that’s really only good for women. It’s an accepted fact that, in most cases, men are more easily brought to orgasm than are women. This is one of the reasons why a reasonable amount of foreplay is often a way to ensure that both partners climax during intercourse: if the woman gets “warmed up” in advance, the man doesn’t have to last as long once he has entered her.
But in fact, men can often enjoy outercourse with a partner as well. Many men can “edge” while they are masturbating – that is, bring themselves near the point of orgasm again and again before allowing themselves to ejaculate. By incorporating this “edginess” into sex play with a partner, they can experience sustained stimulation while helping their partner also achieve orgasms.
The big key to successful outercourse is to communicate – to tell the other partner what feels good and what doesn’t, and to indicate when stimulation needs to momentarily stop and when it needs to start again. By concentrating on outercourse together, a couple can learn a great deal about their partner’s bodies – and about their own.
Learning to communicate about one’s needs and pleasures and finding out more about each other’s bodies is all part of developing better sex routines for a couple. Outercourse is but one step in this direction. Men should be aware that maintaining penis health is also important in this area and so should use a superior penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) daily. Sometimes a man’s penis becomes de-sensitized from rough handling, either through masturbation or partner-based activity. A crème with acetyl L-carnitine, a neuroprotective ingredient, can help to restore diminished sensitivity and make penile stimulation more pleasurable. Men should also check to see if the selected crème includes L-arginine, which is valuable in the production of nitric oxide – and therefore in helping to keep the blood flow to the penis free and unimpeded.
