For men with a baby on the way, things are probably going quite well indeed. Their family is growing, their lovely female companion is about to get that rosy glow, and they’re looking forward to a unique kind of sex that they only get to enjoy for about nine months. It makes sense that a man pays much more attention to penis care during this time, in the hopes that his lovely lady will notice and want to play in the bedroom.
But there are many men who might roll their eyes and sigh about pregnancy, mostly because they have bought into the myths that say things go downhill during this time. Here’s what a man really needs to know about sex, pregnancy, penis health and more.
Myths about sex and pregnancy
Ready for the truth? Here are some of the most common myths and the truth of the matter:
1) Sex will hurt the baby. Unless the doctor has specifically said there is some medical condition that eliminates sex for the course of the pregnancy, a little bedroom action isn’t going to hurt the little one in the slightest. To be perfectly safe, check with the doctor at the first exam to make sure everything is still good to go on the sexual front.
2) She won’t want sex. On the contrary! Pregnant women deal with a multitude of hormones coursing through their bodies, and many of those hormones make them want to have sex – and lots of it. However, don’t be surprised if she’s a little turned off during the first three months, as that’s the time morning sickness hits. Nobody (man or woman!) wants to have sex when they feel like they’re going to throw up with the slightest movement. But during the second and third trimester, she is probably going to say “bring it on!”
3) Doggy is the only position that will work. That’s definitely not true, and in fact, some women might find doggy quite uncomfortable. The usual missionary is tough, thanks to that growing belly. So a guy will need to get creative with his sexual positions, including plenty of woman-on-top and side-to-side in his repertoire.
4) The baby knows what’s going on. A being so tiny and new has no clue what sex is, so there’s no way he or she could possibly know or understand what’s going on down there. Besides that, the motion of sex and the rhythmic muscle contractions a woman experiences during orgasm might actually be soothing to the baby.
5) It will spark early labor. When a woman is very pregnant, right at the end of the pregnancy, a little sex might go a long way toward getting things ready to go. But in most cases, sex will not bring on labor. To be safe, ask the doctor if and when the sexual activity needs to stop in order to help ensure the baby stays in as long as it should.
6) I just felt the baby! No, that wasn’t the baby. That was the cervix, which might be a little lower near the end of the pregnancy. However, if a guy is feeling this, he might also be causing pain for his lovely lady, so it’s important that communication stays open and free. If she is complaining of pain or cramping, stop the action immediately.
7) She won’t want sex after the baby. Yes, she will. But it will take some time for her body to heal, so count on at least a few months of an off-limits sex life. And in fact, a guy might not want sex, either, depending upon how much sleep the new parents are getting!
Whether sex continues during pregnancy or not, a guy should keep his penis ready to go with a top-notch penis health crème (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Look for a crème that contains a multitude of vitamins and nutrients, such as vitamin A, B5, C, D and alpha lipoic acid. Also look for a crème with Shea butter and vitamin E, to provide plenty of important hydration.