Ladies, it’s no secret that men can get especially excited at the prospect of a little oral sex. That’s not because they don’t greatly like, crave and desire regular vaginal intercourse by any means; it’s simply that oral sex is like the occasional special treat dessert. No guy would want to experience only oral sex with the ladies he loves, but when the occasion for some oral entertainment arises, he’s especially gung ho. Assuming he takes care of his penis health, oral sex should present no serious issues for those giving this gift to their men. But they may want to keep in mind ways to make their oral sex even better for their partner.
Clearly, oral sex is easy to define – it’s any time one partner’s mouth performs sexual maneuvers on another person’s genitals. Where male-oriented oral sex is concerned, this is most often presented in porn culture as involving men standing while ladies kneel in front of them to be of service.
Now there’s nothing wrong with that at all, and no man will complain if every one of his oral sex experiences is performed in that manner. But the fact remains that there are variations on positions for oral sex, and ladies (and their gentlemen) may want to explore these options as well.
– Seated. Kneeling is all very well and good – for a minute or two. But women may find it more comfortable to perform orally if they are seated rather than kneeling. The angle of engulfment may vary slightly from kneeling, but more importantly, if a woman is comfortable, she’ll be more likely to concentrate on the task at hand – and that will make the sex more enjoyable. Alternatively, the male can try sitting down instead. And again, the woman can either kneel as before or take a seat next to her partner. In the latter case, there may be some strain bending from the waist in this manner, so it may pay for the male to sit on some cushions or pillows to raise his waist (and penis) up to a more comfortable position for the woman.
– Lying down. The man lies on his back (preferably on a bed or other soft surface); the woman kneels or lies face down on the bed as well. Depending on the size and shape of the bed, she may lie with her head between his legs or on either side (forming a kind of “T” shape with their bodies.) This is often the most comfortable position for both parties – and comfort is often a big factor in how enjoyable oral sex can be for both participants.
In another variation, the woman lies on her back and the man kneels with his penis near her head. He raises her head so that the woman’s mouth can fellate the penis. Men in this position should resists the temptation to forcefully thrust, unless this has been discussed in advance with their partners.
– Mutual pleasuring. Of course, oral sex can be mutually pleasurable, especially if partners enjoy a “69” position – with one lying face up on the bed, the other on top face down, with the crotch of one by the mouth of the other and vice versa. For those for whom the on top/on bottom situation doesn’t work, they can lie on their sides instead.
As with all things sexual, communication and respect will enhance the oral sex experience no matter what position is employed.
Ladies, oral sex will be more comfortable if a man’s penis health is prime, so encourage partners to daily use a top drawer penis health oil (health professionals recommend Man 1 Man Oil, which is clinically proven mild and safe for skin). Smooth penis skin is desirable, so find an oil that contains both a high end emollient (such as shea butter) and a natural hydrator (like vitamin E). In addition, select an oil with vitamin A, the anti-bacterial properties of which can help diminish unwanted penis odor.